This post, sparked by a question asked by my boss of how my Mom managed to power above us. Seriously, my Mom is the gentlest woman you will ever meet. All my friends love her, like the Mom they never had they said.
It's truly a wonder how our relationship is still closely knitted. It's build from age zero. I have stayed away from my parents for my studies for at least 15 years, yet the values my parents taught me stay etched in my mind. This showed how crucial early communication is.
My sister - age 34, my brother - age 32 and myself age 27, you would wonder how the phrase, "I will tell Mom", so often used. It will send us to a little frenzy and send conscious reminder for us to behave. Well, nothing big, mostly stuffs like over shopping, too much eating and lazing, but damn it the 4 words worked like a charm.
My parents believe in the value of communication, endless reminders of what's good and what's bad. It's being told to us thousands of times that whatever we do in life, their words are the first thing we consulted unconsciously. Live with integrity, honesty and dilligence is what matters most.
Hell, presently people believe in sparing the rod. My brother, the most playful of us all, got the rods more often than not. Many disagree on Mom's way of teaching, but I have always believed it's the best. He himself always said, "That would be me if Mom didn't beat the hell out of me", whenever he saw young adults got into young adults problems.
Look at our younger generation, blatantly so rude to elderly, uttering vulgarities at early primaries. Such a sad generation. Mostly is due to parents having no time to take their own children in hand. No time to guide them, communicate with them. Since we were little, we knew Mom would punish us if we utter vulgarities. Until today, it becomes a great habit. What's most important, my parents never used vulgars at home as well.
I have observed from people close to me, there is a type of children who is most disrespectful to everybody, especially to their own parents. Nope, they are not from broken family. These kids, from the public eye, will come from a perfect wealthy complete family. Why are they misbehaving then?
This is where money comes in. Those kids that have unlimited resource of money. Those who knew they can buy anything and everything with their parents money, would think that they can buy the world as well.
Parents, hold your cash!! It's true that you want your kids to be happy. To pamper them in all the most expensive and luxurious things that your money can buy, things that you never had when you were young. You grew up fine without it and your kids would too. Let them know you have the power over your own cash, dont let them threaten you for money that they dont even earn for themselves.
.... Tbc
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